Do you (or did you) get along with your MIL? I am not saying you need to defend yourself but........I know that if my M gets to that point I will set the record straight. Does your MIL know about the A? I have only told one person in family. And so far I am glad because if it does work out then there will be less "talk". Even though my W had the affair I would still feel uncomfortable around our friends if we did get back together. But...... If we do split the all bets are off. I may even take out an ad in the local paper. Crash and burn,
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
