w8ing, the stubborness and pride go hand in hand with MLC. A big part of mlc is denial, and what you said about your H never admitting he made a mistake sounds so much like my W that I would almost think they were related. She will never admit that she is making a mistake, and knowing her as I do, she would think that by admitting the mistake, it would make her look weak in front of all her friends and coworkers. She is a very intelligent and bright person, but right now she seems to be everyone's puppy dog. It seems that whatever her girlfriends tell her right now, it has to be gospel. And I am sure the OM is also helping. In one of our C sessions, she wouldnt admit to the affair with the OM, only that he was a good friend that was helping her. The C said that a good friend would be there to listen not to help her D her H. Last week she wanted to go to a new chinese restaurant in town, as a few of her D friends said that it was the best that they ever had. We went, and I will say that it was ok. My D20 said that it wasnt as good as another that we frequent, and my S18 said the same. It looks as if she is very reliant on whatever her "friends" tell her. I am becoming more aware of the fact that I cant control what she does, but I can control what I do and think. When I start thinking about my sitch, I try very hard to think of something positive, or I stop whatever I am doing and do something else. I still have to have some hope though, b/c if the W really wanted this D, she would be pushing me for some kind of settlement, and at this point nothing has happened. My W also is not very good at the financial end of things, and I know through a few C sessions that she has no clue as to where she will live after the D. Before DB, I told her several times that if she was that unhappy, she could leave anytime. Her response? "I have no place to go." Does this sound like someone who has their s--t together? MLC. Enough said.
