I don't my babying him, but it would just be nice to see a teensy weensy bit of effort on his end too.
he IS putting in effort. Lots, and LOTS, of effort.
Unfortunately, the areas he is currently putting effort into, are not covering areas that you need effort from him in.
Perhaps you should spend some time identifying one specific area, where you could use some effort from him. not HUGE effort. what I might call "safe" effort. In other words, something that he might reasonably do for you, that would not require huge amounts of trust from him, for him to do for you.
(now, i'm getting to the side of things that Heimlich is looking for. Yes, I get there. I always do What I think would be ideal, would not be for Ann to do one iota less than what she is doing. But rather, to encourage her H to start doing more from his side. Sounds to me like the timing is good right now, for that to start.)
Last edited by Dom R; 12/08/0712:46 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
What I think would be ideal, would not be for Ann to do one iota less than what she is doing. But rather, to encourage her H to start doing more from his side. Sounds to me like the timing is good right now, for that to start.)