Its hard because i spent the last 5 years, taking care of our house and raising and caring for our daughters and working full time, trying to meet his needs and trying to be a good wife, mother, sister, daughter and friend with little or no support or help. ....
It's hard because i can't bring any of that up. He doesn't acknowlege any of that and how it probably made me feel. Anytime it's brought up, it's me defending the EA.
That is a lot of stuff to get through, for you.
Very tough stuff. Long-term resentment. Which lead to the EA.
Some thoughts...
WHY do you want to bring it up? This is a serious question.
Sometimes, is it maybe just a little "defensive", even if it isnt explicitly "defending the EA"? eg:, "well, I was bad, but you were toooo!!"
Is it because you see him behaving the same way? Or has he changed?
Is it because you want to have him admit that he was treating you badly back then? Has he ever done that?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
