Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

So my daughters' have their holiday concert tonight - S8's was last night. Will leave here in about 30 minutes and go do the happy family thing -

W is, as expected, very very pissed off right now. She has become such a brat, maybe always was one. She spent the evening slamming dishes, scowling, being short with everyone and she hasn't made eye contact with me once.

Remember my post where I said she was being eerily pleasant? Well that continued for the rest of Wednesday night and all of yesterday. When she said good night to me last night there was a hint of anger in her voice so I don't know if she started stewing about it then or if something about the custody talk hit her today.

Either way I am not taking the fault on this one. She is going to be like this until I say something to her or until she's tired of waiting for me to say "okay honey, don't be upset, you can do whatever you want. i'll stay here with the kids, you go have your fun and when you're done, of course you can continue to walk all over me." However, I have another speech in mind. Something like "It is time to get your head out of this fantasy world and get yourself grounded again. End this crap with OM, start acting like a wife, a mother and the woman of integrity that I fell in love with and married. I am, and your children are, counting on you and we are here to help you any way we can. your opportunity is NOW and we all want you to take it."

I am trying to remain really cool about all this. I don't see any easy solutions right now but I've got to keep my head straight and be prepared for her next assault - which will be verbal when it comes. Should be tonight, when the kids are in bed and after she's had a couple glasses of wine.

This is not my wife. This woman who does not love me, who has fallen in love on the internet and through phone calls, doesn't even come close to the person I want to be married to. I have to get her to a counselor because she is on a path to destruction - of course I have no say on whether or not she goes. Remember, I'm the one with the problems, not her.