Mopsey, While decorating the tree, turn on some Christmas music and fill the house w/song. Bake up some lovely cookies that will leave a pleasant scent throughout the house. It's time to fill your home w/holiday cheer!
If your h does come over to help with the decorations, the memories of the songs, family and aromas of fine cooking will give him much "food for thought".
Enjoy the quality time you have w/your children decorating and just having a good time. That's what the holiday is all about.
Have a pleasant weekend! I look forward to hearing how the decorating went.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.