No, I don't necessarily believe that I would take him back forever. I had it happen with an exBF from long ago; he came back, asked me to marry him and I was with J and told him too late.
i had forgotten about that. he's doubly blind, since he knows you have been in this situation before. But I guess it's because he believed what you've been telling him for the past year :P
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How can I possibly say that and not have it come off like 'sour grapes'?
Well, how about a combination strategy... Communicate that you wont wait forever.. PLUS that you'd like to try something... PLUS, get his attention by doing and saying something new.
"Before we do the divorce thing, I want to try retrouville together. I want to know, for my own sake, that I tried everything, before I move on with my life."
["'cause once the divorce happens, it's my turn to check out match.com" ? ]
And the beauty of it is.. it's all true, and it's all useful for you.
If he gets shaken up enough to go... then great. If he decides to rethink the D, based on a revitalized understanding of your feelings.. great. If he does the MLC schmuck thing, and goes for the D... then you truely can know within yourself, that you tried everything that you could.
(maybe you can ask him to help you take some photos for your match "profile"? )
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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