UD - you bring up a good point about hope and compassion/forgiveness. I will have to think about that.
Am not having the best of days, but there is no reason for it, except I got out the settlement offer and the original papers from my L and it was upsetting. I'm scared about my financial future and that I will make bad decisions in this settlement. I know I will be fine, but it is a hurdle that I need to work through emotionally. I can't even get the retainer together right now and am not sure how to handle this. The money aspect just overwhelmed me today a little bit......
I was also talking to a friend today - the divorce L that I have mentioned previously. I have not told her about DBing, or in fact any details about my situation because her BF is very good friends with H. In any event, she was talking about H and the fact that he is so stubborn that she thought that even if he did realize that he made a mistake, he would never admit to it. He would just say oh well I made a mistake and now I have to deal with it. Also, the fact that everyone now knows that he wants the D - it would be too embarrassing for him to say he made a mistake - not just to me but to everyone else as well. She was saying this because she was talking about her ex and how he asked her to come back when he realized he made a mistake (she didn't). Also, her BF's ex also did the same thing but he wouldn't take her back.
It has been my concern from the beginning. And her voicing it to me just depressed me a little bit as it confirmed what I have been thinking and feeling about him all along. He has so much pride that I don't envision him ever swallowing it. I think this is why I have always had a concern about DBing to save my marriage. I feel that I have been DBing to save me.....
How does stubborness/pride factor into MLC? Is there a way to get by or through it?
