Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[SirPrizeMe]

Ann, please please, if you are sure about your desire to rebuild your marriage, please be patient with your husband. Patient and loving.

Even when he's pestered you over and over for the same thing, please be patient with him. Guard against resentment, protect yourself from bitterness. I think my W built up a great deal of resentment towards me, after the bomb, specifically because the affair issue just did not go away for me. She got tired of dealing with it.

I'm not suggesting that you should honor his out-of-left-field requests like "I want to see you naked right now." That seems, pardon me for saying so, childish and controlling of him. Maybe you could say something like, "Ha, what do you think I am, your concubine?" Refuse, firmly but nicely, like you would to a 2 year old in your care.

It stinks that you are where you are. I hope you can be strong for yourself and for your M.