Hey bear...I'm with you. You know I feel the same way about loving my H and letting go.

I'm so sorry about the wedding thing. If it helps, just think about how uncomfortable she is going to be. I got confirmation from a friend today that even if H brings her around, no one will accept her. You should think the same way...she'll always be "OW"...nice label!! You're not the one with s#%t on your face...he is! And it's smeared allover her too! You stand tall!!

My H went to a wedding w/out me 2 wks after bomb drop...apparently everyone else was so uncomfortable with him there. They thought what a F'ing hypocrite coming to a wedding of all places after what he's done. They'll think that 10 fold about your H especially w/ OW there!!

This was posted by Nephartiti on another post and it REALLY helped me today...
Quote:
"Feelings are not facts..... My Chief task therefore, is to keep my thinking true and my behavior sound and go by what I KNOW, not how I FEEL."

It's my new mantra!!

Quote:
My H is a liar, a cheater, a snake in the grass, but i still love him.

I feel the same way...but somehow I feel that because I've really let go...the real DB'ing can begin. Because I now can focus on myself...for myself. I may feel a little down tomorrow...but hopefully the next day will get better still.
Do something this weekend to take your mind off it. Stay busy.
I'll be thinking about you.
(((hugs)))
J~