You know FLTC I really wonder about these little things she does like agree to get the gifts and put both your names on them. My gut tells me she ain't done that there is some ever so slight glimmer of light within her. Now are you strong enough to continue to weather the storm and will she ever be able to put the guard down enough to open up to those feelings? Well only you can answer those questions and all I and the rest of us can do is give you support.
So my friend, once again I look up to you with great respect, you are weathering the storm of your marriage and serving with heroic zeal. Keep giving her the space, do nothing to pressure her and keep love and a positive attitude in your heart and mind.
Oh and save some d@mn money for yourself!!
As for D17, what about the peace corp?
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa