He arrived home Tue. night. I have a very bad habit of staying up till the wee hours of the morning (my only chance to do things w/o the kids around), so I was very tired, BUT wanted us to have together time. I had been thinking about the whole coupon present and remembered Oldtimer's comment about "why not just do those things now?" Well, I NEVER like to promise too far in advance because God forbid, if I get tired or we get in a fight or WHATEVER, if nothing happens, he is furious.
So, he texts me that he'd be home around midnight, he will be glad to get home, etc. I said I would be looking forward to seeing him, then I said, "So what can I expect around midnight tonight?" He replied about a comment he was going to do to my whole body, then asked what could he expect? I replied that I planned on focusing on my favorite part and we flirted back and forth a bit more, then he asked for a picture. I didn't whole heartedly want to, but did it, even though it probably wasn't exactly what he had in mind. (I think I had sent him a topless of my own accord the day before, to which he simply replied, "wowie zowie"). This time he replied with something like I want you so bad. We talked on the phone when he was leaving town and he said to put the kids down and take a shower and he was looking fwd to seeing me. I had already planned to do that, but did it. HOWEVER, I was so tired from being up all night, I turned out the lights and got under the covers around 11:30. I FULLY intended on just resting and waking up when he came in. He came in right at 12, like he said and asked, "are you asleep?" but I woke up pretty quickly and started talking to him and when he got settled and in bed, we had a very nice connected time. He said things like he was so glad to have me, which he does not say very often and that was nice to hear. He also said he loved me a million times, which we say a lot, but is still always nice. He later made the comment though that I was asleep when he got home. I explained that that was very intentional, sort of a power nap, because I had been so tired and wanted to have time with him. I calmly said not to take that as a negative thing because it was specifically to assure we had a good time when he got home. He said ok, like he hadn't seen it that way and it was dropped.
Well, that was late Tue night. Next day, good vibes all around. LAST night, Thursday, I had some of my girlfriends and their kids come over for a gingerbread making party and gift exchange. Now, I don't know how other people operate, but pretty much EVERY time we entertain, we have lots of work to do in the day or so prior. There is a lot of cleaning and preparation that needs to be done and it usually is not all done in time and it usually involves a late night. I think it is worse because we have kids, but I remember even in college, staying up all night cleaning up the apartment the night before having family visit. Is that unusual? Well, anyhow, Wed we put up the tree and cleaned. He was a grump in advance about the tree and I tried to let it slide off my back. He made it clear it was MINE to put up and MINE to put away. (Apparently, last year, when Sam was 8 mo. old, he had to do a lot of it, which I barely remember.) He is a grump about Christmas anyhow, so he wanted to just do a tabletop tree and I said "no that's silly, we're not gonna not do Christmas because it's too much work!" He does get into getting the kids toys from his past, but that's about it. So Wed. night, things are going well and he is helping me hang the painted kitchen cabinets which I had been bugging him for some time to do. Naturally, he cursed out loud a time or two, and I tried to keep the mood light and point out cute things the kids were doing. I videotaped our 1.5 year old hanging his first ornament, etc.
