I can't take hearing H tell the girls he loves them and misses them anymore. I feel like he is stabbing a knife in my heart everytime he tells them. It brings me to tears because he doesn't say it to me.
I totally understand - It's REALLY hard to stay strong all of the time. It is so exhausting and almost debilitating at times. Sounds like you need some time to recharge and reset yourself if possible.
Maybe you can have him take the girls one evening and you can go somewhere with your friends? It's really tough when you spend so much time around kids without any adult contact. I know I had maybe three days straight a couple of weeks ago when the only human contact was with my D - I talked to W on IM, but it wasn't like a real verbal conversation.
Don't worry too much about calling your H - If he's mad, it'll blow over. He sounds pretty stressed out himself, so just take it easy and give him some space.
I wonder what would have happened if when he suggested the laundromat you just said "Let me get you a bag" and that was that?
Thanks, the bag idea gave me a much needed laugh. Got a text about 2:00 saying he just got into work and so he just got my messages. Don't know where he has been all day. Said he wasn't upset about the washer/dryer thing and doesn't mind folding clothes. That is good to know after 19 1/2 years. Also said we can talk Sat. or Sun. That should be fun. SET EXPECTATIONS SUPER LOW!
Also said we can talk Sat. or Sun. That should be fun. SET EXPECTATIONS SUPER LOW! 
