You noticed problems in your Wife, so you started making some huge changes, pulling out all the stops. Doing things you used to do but stopped a long time ago.
Flower Day...it's like "I love you." You don't say it. Makes them feel that something is wrong in your marriage because they certainly don't feel like they love you.
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I have always been the talker. I have decided already that I will not talk about my Relationship and that will be my goal tonight. I will listen to anything she says or has to say and try to reflective listen and hear her feelings and acknowledge them.
That was your goal that you stated and a worthy one.
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Going out to eat does not seem very appealing anymore. No chance of it leading to anything the way she is feeling and just made me feel.
But deep down you were hoping for something magical to happen, like "Oh my god...what am I doing? I love you and I hurt you, I'm so silly, lets stay married forever."
MrArow...
Dude, there are no magical words you can say. This is a crappy journey. Life is not fair. Work on yourself, and DBing might work. Do not be pathetic around her.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
