WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

[COG]

Jab,

One other thing I did that may have triggered something was that I took the phone bill and laid it on counter and strategically placed it so that OM's # was in plain view as I was going out the door to work. I didn't make it obvious I placed it there like that. I wanted to see if there was a reaction.

That was pretty sly. I think you may have gotten away with one there. She's sounds pretty nervous thinking that you might know what's going on, but not confronting her about it. Best be very careful about that though. Because most likely there's nothing going on.

The last thing I want to do is argue with you, fight with you, accuse you, confront you, make you angry, try and control your actions.

Make sure you follow up this statement with your actions.

I basically stated, what I'm going to do is become a better person and get my 's***' together for once. I'm not going to bother you if you don't want to be bothered with me. I want to get my life back on track, I don't want things to continue like they have been. I will do what I need to do, I'm not going to just crumble and die. You do what you want. I'm being upfront and honest with you about everything, I just ask for the same. As in the past, you couldn't keep the R afloat by yourself, nor can I now. A R/M takes two. I'm not going back on my word.

Nice! Well said! Perfect answer. If your actions match your words, you'll be well ahead of the game. She'll be watching your every move, watching to see if you are a man or a mouse.

I'm probably not following DB rules but W's reactions the last 24 hours seem to be changing a little.

Alls fair in love and war! Here's my philosophy. If your words and actions create a positive outcome, then keep doing them, or do more of them. If the outcome is negative, then stop. Stay attuned to the subtle forces at work. There are going to be times to go dark, and there are going to be times to open up. Keep it natural to your life's path, and she'll be intrigued.

Good Work!

COG