WAW does not want to try

[Torchbearer]

Great news. I guess welcome to the beginning stages of piecing. That's where I'm at. Go SLOOOOOOOOOOW. I can not emphasize this enough. There will be ups and downs and your confidence will be rattled and rebuilt. My H and I have been working on being together for a month now. Most of the time it's been kind of a honeymoon stage, but then we have nights like last night where we go into the really heavy talking and realize that we're not quite through this yet. H hasn't moved back in and I don't push it. The fact is I now know he WILL be moving back. It's no longer and if and I'm okay with that. His ring is not back on yet but I'm being patient. We are moving forward.

Continue to work on your changes and focus on what each other needs to keep the positive momentum going. Keep the lines of communication open (this was our big issue as I'm sure it is for many). Encourage communication even if what your S has to say hurts. It is clearing the air and ultimately will help in the long run. Be strong. Good luck. Go slow and make sure you show your W appreciation for what she is doing. Swallowing pride and asking to come back takes a ton of courage.