I think that is rude and ugly talk and I would chastise the person who said it. I do not believe that perpetuating bad behavior is a solution to past bad behavior.
Not to pat myself on the back, but I believe that the ability to put aside past hurts and deal with people nicely in the present and the future is the reason that my husband and I were able to reconcile. As long as old wounds are licked, we never move forward to solving our problems. It is a quality that many people on this board would do well to cultivate.
