I don't know if I'd answer her, because it just doesn't make sense.
Tal, I wrote a draft letter last night, but I recognize how ludicrous her responses have been, and am wondering whether it might be futile to even respond to such fogginess, as you also note. Here's what I have so far:
"I am asking myself whether am I about to waste my breath once again...
You continually ascribe motives to my actions that are just not so. If you perceived any resentment against you, it was for your actions, not you. I have tried to tell you for a long time that you are not helping me by trying to "fix" me -- if you try to intercede in those times where I am experiencing anger, sadness and/or frustration with any given situation, it is no wonder that you end up making yourself the target for perpetuating those emotions. It was never supposed to be your responsibility, even as my spouse, to control how I feel. And then you take my emotions, directed at you or not, personally. In that you have been greatly misguided.
I have tried to tell you that. MC also tried to tell you that.
And yes, I am sorry to say that I no longer see you up high on a pedestal -- but is it that I knocked you off that pedestal or more that you jumped off? As the mother of our children I owe you the respect that deserves, even where you may not live up to it.
I know I have not been on a pedestal in your eyes for a very long time now. Whether I no longer deserve to be or not is immaterial. I am slowly getting to the place where your respect for me, or lack thereof, has no bearing on me, my mood or my life.
We both just need to practice a little more humility than we have in the past -- and realize we are ALL at the same level, humbled before the foot of Jesus' cross."
I am afraid I answered myself in the first sentence. I think it might be more prudent to just not say anything in response to this.
