Looks like the end

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I'm glad I ran it past your Type 4 radar Lil. He has always been very difficult to communicate clearly with and I think that's part of the reason. He's way too nice and cordial for me to understand a word of what he's saying most of the time and he's trained me to be far less blunt than I would normally be.

I'm not sure anyone's in a position to move out right away - just for pure financial reasons. Getting an apartment would not be an option and our housing market seems set to head the same way as the US one so who knows how long it might take to sell the house.

My plan is to get him to stay in the house and rent out the spare rooms. He could raise enough equity on the house for me to cash buy a smaller place and the rents would cover that extra out-going. But all that is going to take time to organise. In the meantime there is no other option but to continue living under the same roof.

I don't want to get into all these details right away with him. He will pitch a fit and dig his heels in and we will both end up financially worse off. I've got to get us to a point where we are amically brainstorming some solutions for maintaining two households and let him think he thought of it or just let the figures do the talking when we weigh up different options. So I can't yet make statements like "I expect you to look for an apartment". I could say "I expect you to move into the upstairs bedroom".