Time for honesty & truth for a new beginning

[mako]

I agree with B. Don't demonize yourself. Your H has a lot of issues to work out with himself, and this probably will take time. Just cause he's not comfortable hanging out with you all the time doesn't make you a bad person, just means he can't deal with all of this stuff right now. He'll have to clear his head out on his own time frame.

In the meantime, don't just sit around waiting for him, live your own life and do things you enjoy. I would go to the play, either by yourself or bring a friend along. You may just have a good time! One of the keys for me has been realizing that I can go out and have fun without my W. She always planned almost all our social life, so this has been big for me, to learn again how to make myself happy without her help. It helps me to face the reality of the sitch, that even if she never comes back I will survive.