woog, it is rather interesting that w thinks i am trying to control her behavior by getting mad at her. there are times i wish she would drive away and not come back. it would be easier to deal with. i am tired of being the stable one.
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woog, it is rather interesting that w thinks i am trying to control her behavior by getting mad at her. there are times i wish she would drive away and not come back. it would be easier to deal with. i am tired of being the stable one.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
my kids are what i am concerned about. she is damaging them daily by her behavior. i can only protect them so much.it just infuriates me. thank God the kids are not real young.
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Woog is right. Get out of her face! My WAW did some pretty crazy things after she dropped the bomb. I was not great at giving her space. However, when I do, she seems to be coming back slowly to what she used to be. My take on all this is there is no way our spouses can change so drastically forever. It's up to us to do what it takes to help them find their way back. Getting angry and reading them the riot act can shake them up but I am convinced more than ever that it is not the way to go. Treat her as a friend who has lost it temporarily. Do everything right (for your sake, your kids and your mariage). At least if it does not work out you will be able to tell yourself you did all you could and you will be alot closer to your kids. Hope some of this helps.
john, thanks for the dose of reality, i was doing so well before last friday. i just need to remember i am in for the long haul. my problem is listening and believing any thing that she says. it is just rubbish.
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saturday, interesting day so far. told her thursday i was disappointed in her not being here for the birth of granddaughter. ever since then, w has been pretty talkative. even invited me along to go with daughter and w to mall. not a big deal , but first time in 10 weeks. conversation was calm and normal. no r talk at all. very strange. no r talk for 4 or 5 weeks. no d talks, so d papers , nothing. praise God, for the simple little things. expectations very low. do not want to sabotage all the hard work. w going to work christmas party tonight. kids and i will find something fun to do. big truckers parade in town tonight. everybody take care
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
saturday, interesting day so far. told her thursday i was disappointed in her not being here for the birth of granddaughter. ever since then, w has been pretty talkative. even invited me along to go with daughter and w to mall. not a big deal , but first time in 10 weeks. conversation was calm and normal. no r talk at all. very strange. no r talk for 4 or 5 weeks. no d talks, so d papers , nothing. praise God, for the simple little things. expectations very low. do not want to sabotage all the hard work. w going to work christmas party tonight. kids and i will find something fun to do. big truckers parade in town tonight. everybody take care
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
