Thanks ca. As long as I can keep myself occupied I am usually ok. I still want to contact her, but will wait for her lead and hopefully that feeling will lessen.
I find detachment is helped along by focusing on the new W. If I think of the old times I just get sad and depressed by it all, but that person that I loved isn't there right now. Now she is cold, discourteous, distant, selfish, illogical...I remind myself: if she had treated me this way 6 years ago I wouldn't have wanted anything to do with her, so why care so much right now? Doesn't totally work, but it helps.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021