Unfortunately we need to realize the people we are married to are not longer rational. It really is their world and we just happen to be in it. They seem to say and do things that most people can't imagine. And, telling them that they are acting inappropriately only upsets them more.
That's way we have to detach and give them space. We have to hope (evil and painful word) that they come around again. We can't argue it into them.
