Balto, maybe she is just trying to protect herself "in case." Can't really fault her for that. I'm sure she is more than aware of the tension and/or avoidance in the M, right?
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We have had many talks about this though. We have in the past both contacted lawyers without the other knowing. I made the analogy that we were like the the US & USSR in the cold war. Each side assuming the other was getting the upper hand and one day it would lead to a miscalculation and a "launch". So, we had said that we would be completely open about these sorts of issues so there wouldn't be any miscalculations. She wasn't.
I'm also not sure how opening an account with $50 dollars is doing anything to protect herself. As Hairdog said, you can open an account in a couple of minutes. The only way that this could protect her would be if she started to siphon off from the common money into this account. I would consider this an extreme breach of trust bordering on criminal behavior since three out of every four common dollars comes from my check (hmmm, I guess she owes me $37.50). I do not think this was her intention. I believe she wanted something to hang her identity on. Corri's analogy seems close in that this is something a teenager would do to assert their independence.
I am not opposed to changing the way our finances work, but I am opposed to one partner changing it without letting the other know.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
