Maybe you're D17 (I have a D17 too!) doesn't want a tree up because she is broken hearted over her family, and isn't full of a lot of joy. Just a guess.
I do have D17 in counseling. Her famous line is, BUT MOM! YOU need counseling more than ME!!!" Her therapist does think she is handling things well. I see her as being more upset when her dad calls at the last minute for a "token visit". Or, she is disappointed when he doesn't call at all. She will call him which I think is great. No matter what happens between you and your wife I think how you treat your children is critical. It sounds like they are high on your priority list already. Have you found them some unique gifts for Christmas? (is there anywhere to shop besides the little px?)
Her therapist does think she is handling things well. I see her as being more upset when her dad calls at the last minute for a "token visit". Or, she is disappointed when he doesn't call at all. She will call him which I think is great. No matter what happens between you and your wife I think how you treat your children is critical. It sounds like they are high on your priority list already. Have you found them some unique gifts for Christmas? (is there anywhere to shop besides the little px?)