WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

J -Why don't you go ahead and file the D papers yourself? Because you seem to want to give your W every reason to go forward with it.

Why not ask W who this guy is? Because OM does not matter. Because it does not get you closer to your goal. Because you are in no emotional state to know the truth. Because you are not going to stop her from having the EA or PA.

Why do you want to sabotage this?

I'll echo everyone else - do a 180 and STFU. You are not to make her feel embarrased or guilty. She will feel that on her own. You are to be patient and start the DB techniques.

Many of those who fail at this DB'ing fail for the same reasons. Stop thinking this is about you. It's not. If you aren't willing or able to set your own personal agenda to aside or supress (for now) all your needs - then you are wasting your time. Just go ahead and tell your attorney to file.

None of this will get any better until:
1. You admit that you can't control this
2. Recognize your strength can only come from God, not from something you or W says or does
3. Accept your part in the failure
4. Correct your faults - become a better man (aka GAL)

Dude, these are basically AA concepts - rewritten:
1. admitting that one cannot control one's addiction or compulsion;
2. recognizing a greater power that can give strength;
3. examining past errors with the help of a sponsor (experienced member);
4. making amends for these errors;
5. learning to live a new life with a new code of behavior;
6. helping others that suffer from the same addictions or compulsions.

You trust AA's ideas to help you fight addiction, but not with your M?

Focus - Focus - Focus