I've been thinking about the way things are going with my H over the past few days and am half way through DR. I did take the advise from a previious post and have continued sleeping with him. Sex was a big issue with us for the last few years and I do want him to know that I do want him still. He has thought for a long time that I just don't like sex. I just didn't like the way we were having it over the last 2 tears. He was not realy caring if I enjoyed it or not and I was the foolish one going down the same path trying to fix it. We all know where that takes us. Anyways, 2 months ago he took me out for dinner and then a night in a hotel. He told his room mate it was the best sex he's had in his whole life. So that night kick started that part of the R and seems to be going well.

So what's the problem right? Now that he realizes that i really do like it he is thinking that he can't keep me happy in the bedroom. I would say that at least half of the time he is a little to quick to finish. (I really hope this isn't offending anyone) So why am I telling you this? because it goes back to the comments he has made to me about being a failure. I'm giving him the sex he wants but am I hurting him at the same time.

And no I do not belittle him when it happens. I just cuddle with him or ask if he is up for another round. Am I doing something wrong again?


Me:32
H: 34
T: 12 YEARS
M: ALMOST 5
S: 8
D: 4
S: 14 (OTHER R)
SEPERATED: 03/09/07 (but wanted to work on it)
NEW SEPERATION: 27/11/07 (doesn't know what he wants)
MOVED HOME 12/01/08
I'm acting as if this blue sky is never going to rain down on me....Sara Evans