Ann is giving you great advice, listen to it. On another note as posted above, right your goals for your next meeting on a post it. Put it in your pocket and keep it there. Everytime you feel it, it will remind you. No clingy, be positive, etc...
This kills me that guys are like this during pregnancy. I still can't get over that my W is dealing with splitting up our 2 year old. But an unborn child kills me. I just don't get it, I'm on the other end of things sexually. I pregnant women to me is the sexiest thing alive. When my W and I were pregnant, she tossed and turned so bad that I slept on the couch for months, and all I wanted was to hold her and have sex with her. I don't get how men are turned off or whatever by that. It's so amazing.
Just be business like, give him the schedule of the appointments, and then he has control and it is up to him to show. Don't have expectations, but if he shows then he shows. Now the A will die, you can't start a R on cheating, it won't last. What is the OW going to do, if it goes on that long, which I don't think it will, he has a newborn at his place, crying all night, he is cranky, she is getting pissed because her attention is getting stolen away. They can't go out because of this or that, changing diapers, etc... This guys have no clue what is coming. Trust me, you have plenty of time. You will bust this thing!
