Your secret energy to break up him and OW is DBing! (If indeed that is what you want.) Remember the A is an addiction. He thinks it's what he needs right now. But we all know it's a fantasy. Unfortunately, sometimes the only thing we can do is let them run their course. When it's over, you may still be here for him or you may not. But if you continue to work on yourself, you'll be fine.
CONGRATS ON YOUR RAISE! I do well at my job, too. I just won an award for something but in the midst of the personal crap we're going through it seems surreal. On the other hand, it's good that someone appreciates us, huh?!
