Funny, XH told nme the exact same thing. OW will accept less than 100 percent from him and I wouldn't. Straight from the horses, or shall I say, donkey's, mouth.
Always,
You were on the button. I may seem passive in many of my posts as I avoid conflict with XH. However, I am a typical "taurus"..if you push me too far, I come right back with my horns aimed straight at you..It's almost comical he gets mad at me for emailing him and mentioning match.com when he put his profile on the web for MILLIONS of people to see.
He no longer has the power of my thoughts. I had a good day and focused on myself and getting rid of all the nonsense that took place yesterday. His addiction to drama is just as dangerous as any other addiction. You need to stay out of it or you will get sucked in. As for the RAt, I loved what you said. Let her poke her eyes out if she feels bad.
She is an ass and desrves everything she gets. She is bought by him and he knows it. Plain and simple and she even admitted it.
Kiki..Thanks for the visit. Interesting to read about OW stuff. Well, the Rat really isn't doing anything new as we went down this road sane time last year. She tried to make amends with me and I was cordial. THen, XH got in the middle and demanded the communication stopped. Fine with me but she is just his puppet on a string.
The best part of all of this stuff stirring up again is that I become more thankful for my divorce. I know that sounds harsh but my XH was/is mentally unstable. And it's his projection of all of his inner demons that hung over me like a perpetual grey cloud, always looming. I was so obsessed for making his life easier and better it was at the expense of my sanity. I swear, if I had stayed with him I wouldn't be stable, either, and I know that.
As for me, I am winding down with my first semester of being a professor. It was so exciting and I to say I am damn proud of myself for getting this far. This time last year I was in the middle of refinancing my house, studying for state certification exam for teaching and arranging to student teach in Jan of 07, It was nuts. I don't know how I did but I passed my exam and received a 3.97 GPA in grad school. It seems like a dream.
All of that gave me the ability to stand up to my XH, too. Each goal I acheived gave me back my self-respect and rid myself of the self-doubt that I had with my inner being. Xh doesn't like that. I can stand up to him and know that intellectually and morally, I can stand on my own two feet and challenge him any day of the week.
Okay, time to get my D to bed. She was caught in the crossfire of this crap and asked me so many questions today. She has had a few comment for her daddy like "why do I have such a mean daddy?" etc. It's so hard to defend XH and have him be the dad that I know my D needs, at least in her mind. I simply tell her that daddy has done a lot of good things. I remind her of some of them and tell her that he is not happy right now. So hard to explain all this when he is slinging sh## at me.
