Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[Dom R]

Dom, thanks. Maybe it's me, but doesn't it seem like there should be more that he needs than just sex?

there's a book (probably more than one) that claims that men are very simple: all they need from their wives is:

sex, food(?), respect, clear unambigous communication. And then they will be your willing and loyal protector and supporter for the rest of your lives.

Odd as it may sound... yeah, i think for most men, it really is that "simple"

Down the line, he may ask you for more complex needs.
but when a guy is "sex-deficient" to a certain degree... there really is nothing else on his mind that he wants.

For years I've been the one to initiate sex or at least ask for it. Back before all the problems i would have loved every night or something like that, but he was fine with a couple times a week. No big deal. Even if i went a while without asking him about it, he wouldn't say much (tho that didn't happen often) Now how is it, that all he needs is sex from me. I just don't get that. he's never cared before.

peoples needs & wants change over time.

If he cares now..and that is what he needs... then give it to him. simple as that.

While no amount of that is going to change my attraction, i do tell him he's looking good. Any kind of specifics that a guy would like to hear to boost the ego?

"you look hot! let's do it right here on the kitchen table!"?



I think that most women want to hear the words "you look pretty".
I think that most men, want actions. Telling a man, "you look good", is not really going to mean much to him, unless he spends a large chunk of his time in front of a mirror.

once again:
"women --> words"
"men --> actions"

(and yeah, for men, mostly the "action" is "sex".. but once we're satiated on that... other things do actually sound interesting as well )

PS: i think your goals for this evening sound good