On an intellectual level I get "false hope". Emotionally, I don't believe that hope is ever false. I am not naive enough to believe it always turns out the way we'd like, but I don't think to hope is ever wrong.
I get that you are protecting yourself and you sound well, so what do I know? Nothing.
I'm glad you're doing well and not having to deal with his friend and family. It's nice to feel like you have control over yourself.