But today has been a great day. First, I was able to download the Grinch ringtone to my phone. Should I assign it to H's number? A little humor here!
That's a great idea! It would be worth a few smiles, at least!
Originally Posted By: w8ing
Second, at work, H told me that a friend and wife of his, who live oversees, want to come to the US and stay with him for six weeks once H finds "suitable housing".
Hmmm... sounds like 'divine intervention" to me! You certainly lucked out on that one.
Originally Posted By: w8ing
He came in my office and brought this all up again, including my reaction. He was smiling and having fun with it. It was all so normal...
He must have realized that you were the only one who would understand how he felt about those friends coming to visit. Is this the first time you've felt this "normalcy" since the bomb?
Originally Posted By: w8ing
I have no expectations. I continue to work on accepting that my marriage is over. I know that some may not agree with that because if I don't believe that it will survive, it won't. But for me, I don't want to have any false hopes. I don't want to ever feel again like I did this summer when I first got the bomb. This is my way of protecting me. It doesn't mean that I am closing the door...it just means that I am taking back control of my emotions, my life and my future.
I agree that it's good not to have expectations, but I don't think having hope is necessarily a bad thing. Do you feel even a glimmer of hope that you will be able to work things out? I know my sitch is my own, and different from yours, but I can't let go of the hope. I guess I'll only know for sure that it's "false hope" somewhere down the line.
