Put down the boundaries. You have the right to choose what enters your life and the lives of your kids. You have the right to choose that abusive insanity is nowhere near it. Showing the pics of his prospective girls to the kids? And then getting back with Rat and the kids know? Unbelievable.
Just keep it out of your life. I'm glad you were able to get some sort of closure with the Rat, but you know what she told you, already. We knew your H wasn't magically some Prince with her. She has expressed that before.
You are not that woman's therapist, confidante or friend. She can go poke her eyes out if she feels that badly about what she did. She also has the power to leave.
Take care of you, keep those boundaries in tact, read them again and again, practice them and stand up to him. He will bully you, tear you down, curse.
Just remember, your life is worth more than letting it intersect with his.
