Mopsey, You are so right in the fact that he needs to work on himself first. He's starting to realize that life didn't turn out the way he planned it and yes, it's very obvious to all of us that running away didn't and won't resolve his unresolved issues w/his past and w/himself.
You should be extremely proud of your children and yourself for dealing w/this constantly. It's not easy having a drop-in mlc on your hands. He's starting to think and that's very good. He'll figure it out and the holidays will also help him to realize just how unhappy he is. Leave your man out there to swing in the trees for a while, just leave a light burning in the window to show him the way home. That's all you can do.
So, Mopsey, tell me about your holiday plans. Let's turn the focus a bit on you and your children for a bit. None of us knows what the future holds, but I honestly do not think that your h will be that far away for any length of time. I just hope and pray that he will continue w/the therapist and really listen and look within to see that outside forces really can't help him do the work to heal himself.
A big hug to you and the kids!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
