Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hi Martha,

I read Joe's sit. and I do agree that he is a great dad. What a solid rock in a storm. Also, he is quite the prolific writer.

Figuring out what works is very tough. I am not sure you are completely aware of my sit., but my W took a short-bus to crazy-ville. However, things are much better these days than they were over the summer-time. What works often depends on the mood she is in. By her own admission she is "high strung" a lot (most times, actually). She is also very angry at me and it comes out a lot. I try very delicately to voice my concerns over some things to her in a non-judgemental or non-confrontational fashion. Mostly, these are things that she promised to do in the C sessions, yet she fails to delive and even the MC says it is important for her to keep her word. She just calls my concerns "bitching" and get upset. I think this is one of those things that definately "does not work." The large question is this: How do you talk about "issues" outside of MC without setting off a fire storm? Any tribal elder wisdom here would be much appreciated.

However we have made a lot of progress, but we are a long way from being "there." We are going to an MC that, for the most part, seems very good. Also, we had out anniversaty last night (8 years) and we both put our wedding rings back on! I am elated over that.

Best,

--Chris