I think this is something that we can try and do to improve our lives, or a particular situation(substitute 'true greatness', with 'great marriage', or 'successful life', or whatever applies to your sitch, and what your goals are).
"True greatness...always requires regular, consistent, small, and sometimes ordinary and mundane steps over a long period of time." --Howard W. Hunter, "True Greatness", Ensign, May 1982, 19
BUT, never forgetting the following:
"We should learn to be patient with ourselves. Recognizing our strengths and our weaknesses, we should strive to use good judgment in all of our choices and decisions, make good use of every opportunity, and do our best in every task we undertake. We should not be unduly discouraged nor in despair at any time when we are doing the best we can. Rather, we should be satisfied with our progress even though it may come slowly at times." --Joseph B. Wirthlin, "Patience, a Key to Happiness", Ensign, May 1987, 30
Something to think about.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Ahhh, thanks for reinforcing my need to be patient. I tend to get really stressed out when I feel like I'm dropping the ball in any area of my life. I'm sure that gets a bit annoying for H. I think I've learned a lot about letting that go with this whole sitch, but sometimes it's hard to keep from slipping into old patterns when crisis is over, you know?
All to well, unfortunately. With being a technical type person, what bothers me is when something is wrong or out of place. When something goes against plans, my first instinct is to fix it. However, when others are involved, they might not appreciate it. I have learn to not let it get to me as much. Sometimes I think this bothers W too, she feels I don't care as much as she does and she's suppose to be the self proclaimed "laid back person".
Ahhh, thanks for reinforcing my need to be patient. I tend to get really stressed out when I feel like I'm dropping the ball in any area of my life. I'm sure that gets a bit annoying for H. I think I've learned a lot about letting that go with this whole sitch, but sometimes it's hard to keep from slipping into old patterns when crisis is over, you know?
YUP! That is what we can all help each other with.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Aud, "it's hard to keep from slipping into old patterns when crisis is over...". That is so true. You are good in keeping the patience. I have a hard time also thinking about what H is doing on business trip.
I feel like I'm kind of just coasting along. I'm happy with where I am for now, and planning on just enjoying the holidays.
The children have been testing my patience (that word again!) lately, and it's been wierd to observe myself flying off the handle, like I know that what I'm doing is wrong and counter-productive, but I consciously decide do it anyway. Not that it's been extremely volatile, it hasn't, but I'm more aware now of the tweaking that needs to be made in some of my behaviors.
I wish knowing made doing easier! I'm working on it.
H has been doing all sorts of nice things for me. I appreciate the feeling of safety we have right now, and I hope it continues to grow. The possibilities for deception are always present, but current action still indicates that we're on the same track.
Aud, Taking a brief moment to breathe and jot down a quick note. You sound absolutely great! Man, do I know about flying off the handle while realizing that it is just counter productive!! I realize the patience aspect as well...if you don't mind, I placed a tap in your thread so some of your patience might dribble onto my thread. I will try to wipe my feet in your thread later this week to catch up more but wanted you to at least know that my thoughts were and are with you....peace
Just make sure your handle flying is few and far between. We are human, just make sure you are mindful of the other involved, finish on a positive note. Work on toning down your "rants". Show it is a positive progression. They should understand.
Thanks Phoenix...I will. I try to calm down and talk rationally and give hugs and kisses afterwards.
Whapu...thanks for checking in on me. Take everything you need.
Here's my thought for the day:
"Our feelings are always the primary causes of the conditions or effects in our lives. Our lives are initially controlled by our feelings, which, in turn, create our thoughts. Everything we are today is the sum total of all the feelings we have had to this moment. If we wish our lives to be different in the future it is necessary to change our feelings, which then changes our thinking, in the present. By so doing, we change the direction of our lives!" -Karol K. Truman, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die
Just starting on the book, so I haven't reached the part about changing feelings...but I suspect it will have a lot to do with being more aware of what is truly bothering me and consciously changing my own thoughts and actions.
