He's told you that he was unhappy before he found OW. It's like when you get a cold, you feel the runny nose and hear the cough, but it's really the nasty little virus inside causing the problems. Get rid of the virus, slowly the cold symptoms go away. the OW is a symptom of whatever "virus" was attacking your marriage. This was probably baby/pregnancy focus. A lack of passion and meaningful sex. Lack of communicaiton. Get rid of those things and then the marriage will have a chance to heal.
It's hard when it's just the one of you working on it, but you can do your part. I think you mentioned once the he had said you were needy/grumpy/whatever. When you talk to him now, keep it simple and be happy and detached. Act "as if" you are for now.
You will be fine. She means nothing and he deserves nothing from you. YOU CAN DO THIS. i have faith in you and i'm sure everyone else does too!
Originally Posted By: blindsided1
I hate him
use that to detach....
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
