AH HA! The word I was trying to think of was *OBSESSING*. You are not just dwelling, you are completely obsessing about your W and your sitch. I know, I know, hard NOT to do, but you need to TRY to start doing something else. That's where the "act as if" stuff comes in. You need to start acting as if you could care less.
I have a feeling that you are obsessing so completely b/c you had your chance to get back together w/ wife and supposedly blew it. Look at it this way instead -- you don't know for sure that things would have worked out if you had taken the chance back then anyway. You need to get over that -- it's just like me having to get over allowing myself to have regrets and feel like "if only I'd done things differently then maybe" -- well, I didn't do things differently and now we're in a world of sh!t, so now I need to deal w/ what I have going on NOW, not what COULD HAVE BEEN.
Last edited by RedHeadWife; 12/06/0710:33 PM.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
