And make sure whatever you put in writing is fair to you under the law - so a judge doesn't later say "So you already agreed to this" and there goes the stamp of approval.
How to de-escalate is a good question. My thought would be either 1. wait and do nothing that he sees (but in the meantime, check with a L, write out what a fair proposal looks like from your side, and plan how to CALMLY discuss it if/when he brings it up). Or 2. Write up a proposal (that's legal and fair) and either give or email it to him, and ask to set up a mutually convenient time to discuss it.
I realize you're under some time pressure with your house rental coming up... so #2 might be a better choice even though it's taking action towards what you DON'T want. I dunno.. that's really a tough one.
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