Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[Dom R]

i scrolled up in this page.

this caught my eye:

i'm frustrated with myself because i don't know what it is specifically that turned me sooo off. I wish i could just flip a switch. I've always been HD and i miss it, but i just don't enjoy it with him right now (even since before the pregnancy)...

I think it's pretty clear what you need, and why you are turned off.

it's pretty difficult to be "turned on" by someone that you dont view as putting in any effort into your marriage.

So.. rather than trying to beg out of him all the time, "what do you need"... I think you need to do a 180, and come at him with, "this is what I need".

Seems like you KNOW what he needs already: more sex. horney, passionate sex from you.

So, i think you then need to have a talk with him. let him know that you are like most other women, and you need to feel actually connected to him, to feel passion for him.

If he gives you a [duh, what?] kinda reply, then you may do well in digging up one of those typical "for men" books, on "this is what a woman needs from a man if you want her to respond to you sexually".

If he wont listen to you, then maybe he is capable of reading about it from someone else.