That makes total sense to me. We are ever changing people. As the sit changes, so does the effort we put in. No doubt about it. I was thinking in the begining (when i posted that for him) and she is first coming back...
anyways... I am thrilled that at least he says he wants to make our M work and he wants to have an even stronger M than we used to. It's just hard when his actions don't seem to echo his words. I'm not always negative (tho it may seem that way). I really do try to be appreciative and happy that he changed his mind about the divorce.
If we could have a rational conversation about anything along those lines (i need "X" 4 times a week) i would be in heaven. I wish i could just get him to tell me what he really needs... Maybe I'll just ask him specifically what he needs me to do to show him that I am trying. I don't think i've ever been that direct. it's always, what do you want me to do or what do you need from me?
It would just be nice to see an effort on his side too.. Although, i guess that's why I'm here and trying to figure it out and he's not.
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
