Amy- I expect you've been following what's been going on on dar's thread since this morning's (not unexpected) blow-up. I just wanted to say that I think you did a good job of forcing the issue, and I think that the ball is really in her court now. I think she is finally seeing that this is really much more about her than him. I hope so anyway. Your prodding yesterday, and the wake up call you posted seems to have really helped her see better, and it helped 'us' get closer the the bottom (I'm sure there's more) or her issues. Anyway, your are prety smart!
OJ
Oh, and I think jab is much better off today, too. Still in a mess, but he is much more in control of himself. So he says thanks, to, thouogh he probably doesn't know it!
Amy, Sorry to jump in the middle here. Sounds like you are doing well. I'm alive. It's that time of year when I wish I hadn't been so optimistic in October taking all these gigs. You do a beautiful thing, JT. Music brings happiness to people. Even to people who are sad... because music can take them back to a time when they were happy and believe it or not, people reach a point where they can smile at the good memories even if bad ones involve the very same people.
Life goes on. I am dealing with a lot of memories of the guy I was married to and how it all conflicts with the man who left me. Reconciling the two is impossible. I miss the guy I married but I realize he is gone. People are still asking me if he has a drug problem or bipolar. I don't know and I can't answer that.
Still holding my Cougar status as well as dating some men my own age. Finally shook off all those 20-somethings, eh? One guy is "quite taken" with me ( he's British) and I am trying to keep him at arms length. My heart is still broken.
Sounds like your life is returning to something close to normal. Well, if crazy as hell can be considered normal, I reckon I'm cornering the market... Would be lying if I said I wasn't envious. Don't envy me, JT. My family is broken and I stay destitute and can't seem to do a damn thing about it. Thanks for the shout out... I do pop by here on occasion but really there is no point for me to post. I failed. JT, you did not fail. You picked yourself up and kept living when the life that you knew went to hell in a handbasket. Do not become jaded. Create new dreams with the lessons you learned when the old ones were lost. That's why you learned them. You didn't make bad things happen, JT. And you can turn them around for your good unless you choose not to. What I remember most about you was that in talking about things here that didn't even have anything to do with your husband, you had heart, spirit. You might think your heart is broken still but I think it's just been quietly growing all this time.
Take care of yourself and stop by anytime. We're just screwing around most of time on my thread so feel free to just jump in anywhere!
