In a nutshell -- we are supposed to go to my sisters for Christmas with my family, then on to hers. Now theree is a change in circumstances around an event we were going to go to which would give us flexibility to change dates. The date that we are planning to go to my family conflicts with a holiday party W's best friend is having and she is mad at having to miss it. This is of course the friend she goes on double dates with that included OM. I am sure (in my mind) that he would attend with her.
Do I...
1) not tell her unti it is too late to change her plans
or
2) tell her that I would be happy to take the kids to my family on the same date and she could come up by her self later so she could attend the party
