she just told me that she is with someone elseHELP

[Michael Mc C]

Have you spoken to your in-laws? Of course this is only one of the things you can, or should, do. Remember that this could be a long process - getting yourself together and detaching from your wife. There will be days at a time when you don't know if you're going about it the right way and wishing to get some feedback. It could easily become a sit and wait approach but you do NOT want to sit and wait. Get yourself moving forward and continue with it. If you backslide, get back up that hill.

I'm not the greatest at giving motivation or inspiration but I know that you need to move forward with everything in your life. There is no human in the world, with the exception of one in the womb I guess, that is completely dependent upon any other human.

You've made progress since coming to this site and we're all pulling for you - you just need to keep focused.