LRT UNDER SAME ROOF II

[Wooglint]

I have to believe that no matter how bad they feel it is a hard decision to pull that trigger. I'm sure that you've given her something to think about.

Stay positive. Everyday is a new chance to prove yourself.

[craig54]

woog, i can say with confidence , she is definitely thinking about her situation. i am not the same person i was 10 weeks ago. i am much stronger, have more faith in God, stand up more for myself. am not a doormat. slower to anger.but i still have a long way to go. you are right , everyday is a new day and a new chance to get it right. another day for the Lord to work on w's heart and soul.

[craig54]

absolutely not going to apologize. talked to 10 people, they all said don't . so no matter how bad i feel i will not apologize.

[Wooglint]

Good for you. Hang tight

[craig54]

well, invited w to company christmas party last night. she waffled and said she did not know. i just said ok, at least i put it out there. she is getting ready for her work christmas party saturday night. couldn't find any jewerly to go with her dress. questioned why i had got home late.8:15pm. i said it was my night to go do something , she must have forgotten. conversation seems to be friendly again. she seems excited about going to her party. still praying for a positive sign. must be patient and upbeat.

[craig54]

entire family went to dinner last night. w is still mad at me for chewing her out. gave me a little dig at dinner table about it. got home , she said she was thinking about not renewing her gym membership. i said why, she said she was tired of me getting mad at her about being gone so much. she said that i wanted her home more, for me not for the kids. did not argue. she does not see that the kids need her at home. i also told her the reason i was so mad last friday night was a carryover from her not staying in town extra day to see granddaughter born. she was shocked i was mad at her for that. she said someone should have said something to her. she said it never crossed her mind.it is obvious she feels i am trying to control her behavior by calling her on the carpet once in awhile.i do not do it for me, i do it for the children. am i wrong to ask her to have a balance as far as being gone and being around for the kids? she is so oblivious at times.she said she checks with the kids to see if it allright if she is gone. of course the kids are not going to tell their mother it is not allright. comments

[Wooglint]

Craig,

Unfortunately we need to realize the people we are married to are not longer rational. It really is their world and we just happen to be in it. They seem to say and do things that most people can't imagine. And, telling them that they are acting inappropriately only upsets them more.

That's way we have to detach and give them space. We have to hope (evil and painful word) that they come around again. We can't argue it into them.

[craig54]

woog, i guess i am having a hard time with her ignoring the kids. my first w just checked out and left me to deal with everyting. kids were 2 and 7 . obiviously i am sensitive to having this happen with current w. w this morning said she would be late no matter what. she needed to have her nails done. plus she still might go play poker with work friends.last night she said she wouldn't go play because she was going to her work party saturday night and would be home very late. woog, rational does not come into play. its been 10weeks since bomb. i am dealing with a teenage mind set. i guess i will let her crap all over her children.

[Wooglint]

Craig,

I feel for you. I really do. I just don't think you telling her how wrong she is will change anything. The only thing it's going to do is make her mad at you.

[craig54]

woog, it is rather interesting that w thinks i am trying to control her behavior by getting mad at her. there are times i wish she would drive away and not come back. it would be easier to deal with. i am tired of being the stable one.