Does anybody else here ever have the thought that forming a relationship is more about figuring out what failings or vices you can tolerate in another person rather than what good traits you might seek? The question I am currently asking myself is "Can I handle being in a relationship with a sweet-talker?". I shall define "sweet-talker" as "a man who will offer half-truths and over-the-top validation in order to achieve, maintain or get/do what he wants in a relationship." Now, if I had the personality type of, for instance, MsHD, there wouldn't even be a question. I would think "I will not be lied to. That is disrespectful." and squash the offender in full parental mode or exit the relationship. However, the truth is there is something my "bunkey" likes about a "sweet-talker" and I think I know what it is. If a guy is going to play me monkey like that then my monkey is free to do what she wants. Instead of getting all righteously indignant, I can just be the girl who pretends to still believe in Santa Claus in order to get more toys. I'll just climb up on faux-Santa's lap and listen to his story like a bunny-eyed innocent 'cause all I really want is the cuddle and the candy cane anyways.


Last edited by MJontheMend; 12/06/07 06:27 PM.
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