Saffie's sandbox - Extension 9

[saffie]

For example, if you had never seen a hot stove before, would I let you touch the heating element. No.

I agree with this in principle - but if you don't understand what 'hot' is you have to learn. As a parent you know this. You try to avoid pain for others if you can but how do you ever know what 'hot' is until you have felt it?

Imp, I think we are on the same page here but sometimes, try as you might, you can't stop a train crashing. Hopefully it won't, but the only people who can stop this particular one crashing are BFM and FW. I have been 'reconciled' with my H for over 17 months - it gets so hard. I think your caution is well advised - whether it be MLC, WAS or a S having an A - it's all just variations on a theme of betrayal. Like you I believe success is not whether or not the M continues but whether the parties concerned grow and learn and come out better and stronger people. For the moment I personally believe BFM and FW should be allowed to enjoy this honeymoon period and get a chance to bank their fluffy cloud so they can withdraw it and look back on it to help them when the darker clouds come along.

I don't want to rain on their parade.

As I said In my previous post, I think your points have been made adequately but perhaps more tactfully and eloquently by Bworl.( I do appreciate that post came after yours though).

Saffie