I Was Almost A WAW....Still (Next Thread)

[Dom R]

I am nervous about it b/c he is very sensitive about his work.

that's why I worded things, the way I did.

Specifically, to emphasise your wish for "stable income, so that you dont have a worry about money hanging over your head".

The emphasis is not on, 'You are a slacker, you dont do .....'
The emphasis is on Sandi's feelings, and needs, and concerns for the family, rather than going through a list of negatives about H.


PS: my guess is that you're not going to be able to "make the WAW feeling go away" completely yet. Because it is dependant on how your H is treating you.
AFTER he treats you better, then it will be easier to make it go away.

Try not to focus on "do I feel like walking away or not". Instead, focus on, "I know my H cares about me... he has shown me that through some of his actions over the past month. I believe that he will be willing to do at least some, if not all, of these things I ask of him."

That, i think, should be a believable positive attitude for you to focus on.

Then ask him.