Jak, I received several email rants by my W today. She says that the cleaning I'm doing around the house isn't good enough. She says that I'm not pulling my share of the weight around the house. She says that everthing I fail to do, has to be hired-out to someone and paid for.
There seems to be a mistrust that I'm not willing to help. I'm not sure where that comes from. Did I create that over the years?
All I can do is listen, try to figure-out what she wants, and do what I can. I'm trying hard not to judge her in a negative way. My confict management book wants me to provide the type of listening that is needed for the situtation.
I'm going to add a few more items to my Saturday cleaning routine--washing bed linens, cleaning bathtub.
It seems like she wants everything to be resolved quickly. I'm not sure it's possible to meet her expectations. It isn't possible to anticipate and prevent everything that may potentially upset her.
I went to bed early last night after her verbal rant of complaints. I offered to skip dance lesson tonight to make progress with some of her concerns.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
